Showing posts with label Courtship. Show all posts
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Monday, June 11, 2012

The Men of Austen: Edmund Bertram


While the women of Jane Austen’s books are undoubtedly the main characters, the plots would not make it very far without the role of the male characters.  So here continues my incomplete series on the men of Austen.

Let’s talk about Edmund.  He is supposed to be the hero of Mansfield Park.  The kind, chivalrous, moral compass of the rag tag cast.  My Book Club buddy Kayla asked earlier in our reading if Edmund was too good to be true.  After finishing the book, I would say yes.  He reminds me of cotton candy- pretty and sweet, but has a bitter aftertaste and is all fluff when you really need something of substance.

Edmund and Fanny Price, our “heroine”, were raised as brother and sister from an early age.  He is described as her only advocate, the only one who shows any care for her wellbeing or respect for her worth.  Austen tells us, “Edmund’s friendship never failed her.”  He consistently builds her up, and after describing her qualities, said, “I do not know any better qualifications for a friend and companion.”  He defends her to his family, sees to her needs when she is being ignored, and encourages her to see her own value.  He calls her “the perfect model of a woman.”

Yet despite all of this, who does he fall in love with?  Who is the “only woman in the world whom he could ever think of as a wife”?

Mary Crawford.

Mocking, manipulative, materialistic Mary Crawford.  She vocally wishes that Edmund had more money.  Multiple times she speaks her mind against his decision to become a clergyman.  She makes fun of his career and belittles the role of faith in daily life.  At one point, she basically wishes his older brother Tom dead so that he can inherit Mansfield.  She does not support him or share his beliefs.  She rarely speaks to him without mocking him in some way.  And yet, she is who he wants to marry.

I just don’t understand.  The same man who thought, “Fanny was worth it all; he held her to be worth every effort…” doesn’t actually want her for himself.  He encourages her to give Henry Crawford a chance, even though his morals are highly suspect and she feels nothing for him.  No matter, Edmund has a plan and he sticks to it- that is, until his sister runs off with Henry, messing everything up.

Low and behold, he can’t have Mary.  So whose shoulder does he cry on? Fanny’s.  Who consoles him and acts as a voice of reason?  Fanny.  Who does he find to be beautiful and indispensable?  Fanny.  Who appreciates and supports his calling as a clergyman?   Fanny.

So who does he marry?  Fanny.  But instead of feeling triumph and satisfaction at the end of this book, I was annoyed.  Fanny is not my favorite Austen character, but I can’t help but be defensive for her.  The one man who had advocated for her to stop being treated like a doormat her whole life, ends up using her as a doormat himself.
 
Clearly, I am no Edmund Bertram fan, but maybe I shouldn’t have read Emma first.  Mr. Knightly has ruined me forever. :)

Saturday, January 21, 2012

How to cure what ails you and secure a husband (1811 edition)

From reading Sense and Sensibility, one can learn many household methods of curing common illnesses.  Some of these *cures include:
  • Wine- cures: colicky gout, a disappointed heart
    •  Mrs. Jennings asks Elinor to take "some of the finest old Constantia wine... that was ever tasted" to Marianne while she is ill.  
    • Elinor replies, "...how good you are! But I have just left Marianne in bed, and, I hope, almost asleep; and as I think nothing will be of so much service to her as rest, if you will give me leave, I will drink the wine myself" (Chapter 30).
    • Then... "Elinor, as she swallowed the chief of it, reflected that, though its good effects on a colicky gout were, at present, of little importance to her, its healing powers on a disappointed heart might be as reasonably tried on herself as on her sister" (Chapter 30). 

  • Sleep/rest- cures: heartache, violent colds, feverishness, coughing, pain in limbs, sore throat
    • Elinor is convinced that Marianne just needs to sleep. "Elinor advised her to lie down again" (Chapter 29).   
    • "I shall persuade her if I can to go early to bed, for I am sure she wants rest" (Chapter 30).  
Clearly, Marianne is suffering from heartache in this picture. 
    • Upon arriving at Cleveland, Marianne takes several twilight walks in tall, wet grass, and then she sits in her wet shoes and stockings, giving her a cold. "Though heavy and feverish, with a pain in her limbs, and a cough, and a sore throat, a good night's rest was to cure her entirely..." (Chapter 42). 
She brought it upon herself, if you ask me. 
  • Lavender drops- cures: heartache, restlessness
    • After Marianne reads Willoughby's letter she is beside herself and needs to lie down, but that is not enough. "Some lavender drops, however, which she was at length persuaded to take, were of use; and from that time till Mrs. Jennings returned, she continued on the bed quiet and motionless" (Chapter 29). 
    • Read about lavender here.  They even mention that it appears in Pride and Prejudice and Sense and Sensibility.  Apparently it really can be used as a sleep aid.  Who knew?

  • Cordials/medicines- cures: ????
    • Mr. Harris prescribes various "cordials" and "medicines" for Marianne during her illness, though they seem to do nothing other than cause her to "sink at last into a deep slumber," but her "fever was unabated" (Chapter 43). 
Marianne (here in Kate Winslet form) is slumbering, perhaps.
*It should be noted, however, that none of these methods really seemed to do much good for Marianne, and therefore, they should only be administered under the guidance of a practised (yes, I meant to spell it that way) apothecary.  

Austen's characters also give women some helpful hints about how to secure a husband, as evidenced by Mr. John Dashwood in Chapter 33 when he encourages Elinor to pursue Colonel Brandon:

Colonel Brandon, the one to be secured
  • "A very little trouble on your side secures him.  Perhaps just at present he may be undecided; the smallness of your fortune may make him hang back; his friends may all advise him against it.  But some of those little attentions and encouragements which ladies can so easily give will fix him, in spite of himself." 
  • In other words, "Go for it, Elinor!  Even though you are dirt poor and none of his friends will approve of you, you just go ahead and flirt with him, and he won't be able to resist you despite his better judgment!"
These topics were ones that jumped out at me as I was reading... the various, rudimentary methods used to nurse people back to health were many, though hardly effective.  And the ridiculousness of John Dashwood's remarks concerning Elinor's relationship with Colonel Brandon are not terribly unlike ones that I have heard given as advice to me.  There may be some truth in his comments, but I'm just not sure what those should look like within the context of 21st century Christian pre-dating and dating relationships. 

-Betsy

S & S- Favorite Quotes

Book Club, I challenge you to post about some of your favorite quotes from the book.  Share the quote, maybe a picture, and a thought or two.  It doesn't need to be long, but it might prove to be entertaining.

Here's one that I really liked:

"The gentleman offered his services; and perceiving that her modesty declined what her situation rendered necessary, took her up in his arms, without further delay, and carried her down the hill."

I just love the language of the chivalry of this line.  Now, I know that the chivalry was on the part of a good-for-nothing money grubber, but the thought was nice.  Too bad the act of manly compassion didn't work out for Marianne.



Oh wait, it did...just with a different guy.

Amen for chivalry.

-Katie

Thursday, January 5, 2012

Been chewing on this lately...

"You shouldn't be looking for a finished statue, but a great block of marble...you want to be in love with who you see that person becoming." - Tim Keller.


And unfortunately, unlike Emma and Elizabeth, most are not the finished statues that Mr. Knightly and Mr. Darcy were.